Infidelity, Cheating:

Infidelity

Infidelity is so common nowadays especially in America. Don’t be fooled if it’s happening to you right now. Don’t feel bad because It has happened to me, so I understand.

“Treat others the way you want to be treated”.

That’s a rule I have, In other words, don’t cheat if you don’t want them to cheat on you. Doesn’t mean that if you follow this rule, it will not happen to you, but is just a principle.

But why?

Why cheating happens? What motivates your girlfriend or wife to cheat on you? How can you find out if she is cheating on you? Is there a way to prevent infidelity?

There are many reasons a woman will cheat on her man, from loneliness and a lack of love and affection, to her needs not being met by you sexually, for whatever reason. Due to this she may end up looking for someone else to fulfill these needs.

Either way, if she's cheating on you, you need to learn to recognize the common signs of woman infidelity. Then, you need to start gathering proof, before you confront her and fix things.

"She would never do that, she has it too good"

The #1 most notorious reason why affairs go undetected is because people refuse to believe that it can happen to them. Well let me tell you right now that the laws of nature apply to everyone - including you.

If you care, you must cheat proof your relationship to greatly minimize the chances of becoming a victim. The fact is that someone will always refuse to believe it. This is how they rationalize it:

He pays for everything and he doesn't cheat on her, so why would she cheat?
He asked her if she was cheating and she said no.
He's smarter than her.

If you don't believe that it can happen to you, if you think that you are that one special person in the universe where the laws of nature don't apply to you, you're going to get burned.

Understand that cheating may happen to anyone, including you. Then cheat proof your relationship. Does this sound similar to anyone you know? Now let's recap the most important points for you to know:

You must accept the cold hard facts that anyone can and will cheat on you. It's human nature. If you don't accept this, you're in for a lot of misery.

Don't ever expect your lover to admit to you that they are having an affair. If you're waiting for this to happen, it will be the longest wait of your life.

Infidelity needs to be resolved quickly, so keep your eyes open for these warning signs that will indicate whether you need to pursue the matter further and gather proof before you confront your wife or girlfriend.

Suddenly, she needs privacy regarding her cell phone or computer habits. She now hides her phone from you, ducks into another room to take a call, only to hang up when you enter the room. You find that she deletes her text messages, call logs, and internet history to cover her tracks.

She accuses you of not being able to trust her if you confront her about her possible infidelity.

She pays more attention to her appearance, often wearing slightly revealing clothing when she never used to before.

She suddenly wants to try out new things in bed, things which perhaps she seemed reluctant to try before.

She now also hides things which used to be shared openly between the two of you, such as bank statements, or phone or credit card bills.

She suddenly starts working strange hours or frequently has nights out with the girls, or so she says.

Did you recognize any of these signs? These are some of the most common infidelity warning signs that could indicate your wife or girlfriend may be cheating on you. You see, because of their natural attributes, Alpha Males greatly decrease infidelity. It's so critical to ensure your relationship is working and is not being taken for granted. Remember to refrain from the “Love Busters”:

Selfish demands
Disrespectful judgments
Angry outbursts
dishonesty
Annoying habits
Destructive and independent behavior

If you spot any of the cheating signs then try to find out what is going on fast before the person gets so fed up with the relationship that an affair seems like a good idea and the question of breaking from the relationship become a reality in their minds.

Keep infidelity away. Deal with this situation as soon as possible, rather than later, so if you've noticed any of these cheating signs, investigate further and gather the proof you need.

If you have a cheating girlfriend, just analize your options. It may be wiser to move on and find someone else. But having a cheating spouse is much more complicated. Leaving everything behind may not be practical.

Can marriage with a cheating wife still be saved?

That really is up to the husband and the wife. They are, first and foremost, a couple and it is up to them to decide where they want to take their relationship, whether or not they want to stay.

Although some extramarital affairs have ended in bitter divorces, others have been lucky. Many couples have been able to weather a highly destructive extramarital affair and still live together in a happy marriage.

But then, there's statistics rearing its ugly head one more time. In a study involving couples with a cheating spouse, about 64% got back together again. The only problem is that over 75% of these couples reported later on that their marriage is no longer happy and satisfying.

Put some geographical distance between you and your mate while you know you are seething from anger. Do not attempt to find out your girl's other man; instead, try to get emotional and spiritual help to help you cope with this tragedy.

Do not drink yourself to an escape. Instead, work on getting your emotions dealt with. After which, forgive her. Try to hold off divorce, as much as possible. Maybe your wife was cheating because of lapses on your part. In general, if you still love her, try to get marital counselingand strive to save your marriage.

The signs of infidelity are serious; and yet, remember to keep a clear head in spite of the circumstances occuring around you.

A hasty reaction and going to jail for any act of violence is not worth it. Neither is getting a drastic divorce going to solve your marital problems. Try to keep a level head when you see any signs of infidelity. Get to the root of the problem, and try to work your way through. In the end, it may be worth everything you've gone through.

For your own sake and to prevent such heart aches, Please, learn from my blunders and avoid this heartache by checking out great expert advice such as Attraction Road Map, and Personal Authority.