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I shower my girlfriend with affection and love, but she doesn't seem to return the favor. It's hard to get the affection I need from her. She only shows affection when I give it. Any advice? By Anonymous Asked Aug 25 2006 4:57AM
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Answer 11 out of 16 by Andrew1 on Nov 15, 2007 at 12:28 pm Permalink
i have the exact same problem...mostly when we're with her friends...she seems to completely ignore me...ive talked to her about it and she just says "ive never been taught how to show affection"...what kind of answer is that? i go to see her and im happy to see her for the first 10 or so minutes, but after that i could seriously just roll up and die i feel so sad...she doesnt seem to even notice the way i feel, though i make it obvious. I know that im just attention loving, but the feelings i get when this happens are so strong that i feel like leaving her, though she is the world to me...i know she loves me, is there anything i can do?
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Answer 12 out of 16 by letmespeak19 on Oct 15, 2007 at 3:45 pm Permalink
When you say you 'shower her with affection and love' what are you doing? Are you trying to initiate sex? Because that's where my DH messes up; he thinks affection and love = sex and it isn't. Hopefully you're not getting them mixed up.
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Answer 13 out of 16 by Chaysgirl2455 on Oct 15, 2007 at 3:41 pm Permalink
Wow! It's the other way around with my man and I!
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Answer 14 out of 16 by interhawk1 on Oct 15, 2007 at 3:32 pm Permalink
Well, this thread dormant, but in case anyone like me stumbles across it, I would recomend that you atleast consider checking out "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.This book caused a near instant change in how my fiancee and I expressed our love for each other. It accounts for the reasons why a person who loves another very much, may not express that love in the way the other expects or even perceives.I will say that I was in the exact same situation as cooldude, very loving fiancee who just would not show physical affection unless almost coerced. After reading Chapman's examples and explanations, the situation has completely changed. With her now understanding the need for the physical affection (in my case) she gives it much more readily, to the point where she to has come to appreciate that physical connection that befoer she didn't really care for.Whether you agree with the book or not, I think it's at least worth giving it a shot.
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Answer 15 out of 16 by spreckles1 on Oct 13, 2007 at 2:21 pm Permalink
I found this site after my boyfriend "msyteriously" left it open on my computer. I know he has been complaining about this to me. I keep telling him them same thing over again, but he refuses to listen to me. So from a girl who is in the position of said girlfriend, I can say Auntie Em has the best answer, fully encompassing how I feel. My BF ignores me all the time and only focuses on what I can do for him. As a result he has to resort to websites such as this to find out how to deal with me, when all he has to do is listen to what I have to say, point blank. The worst thing is, instead of listening to me, he is now accusing me of cheating on him--which I am not. So a piece of advice to the original poster and all others is, before you ask for advice from strangers, why don't you go ask your girlfriend directly?
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Answer 16 out of 16 by Lacey321 on Jul 26, 2007 at 9:19 am Permalink
Its weird because its usually the males who are the unaffectionate ones and the females who are (stereotypically) I'm going through the same and i know this post is old but i dunno what to do. In my experience ive found being unaffectionate will just get yourself frustrated as then there is no affection at all. Do you feel like your carrying the relationship all by yourself? and are you still in the same relationship and how is it going. Ive talked to my girl about it and she tells me its just the way she is and it doesnt change the way she feels about me but yet i feel im missing that second half.Let me know if you got any good advice to give
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