3 Phases of Sexless Relationship Slow Death - Self Sagacity

There are three phases a sexless relationship usually experience. 

First phase, when one realizes that they are in a sexless relationship, they are worried. They want to fix it. They talk about it to their mate, and want to know why it happens. They both agree in getting help, finding ways to rekindle.

Second phase, nothing changes. There are many more years of sexless living, one mate is completely fine with it, while the other is torn to pieces. This phase lasts the longest. It goes and goes until the frustrated mate can no longer put-up, or realizes life is too short to be made miserable by someone. 

Third phase, the frustrated mate decides to, 1) find a sex buddy, 2) starts building a wall to protect her vulnerability. She retaliates, and starts living as a roommate, brother and sister, family style, 3) the frustrated partner becomes weak, starts being anything and everything just to have some intimacy. She becomes a sex slave. Giving but not getting back.

Whichever outcome the sexless relationship falls into. The bottom line is the frustrated partner eventually wakes-up, or decides life is too short to be made miserable by another person. The same path applies to all the third phase choices, which is a decision to bury the relationship and move on. 

To me a sexless relationship is abusive like slow deaths. It isn't obvious, yet a person is trapped in the marriage and children, and for many people sex is considered a want not need. A sexless relationship is demeaning to the woman, it makes her feel like she is begging for attention. It is belittling her self-esteem, and mentally depressing. 

I am sorry, my final conclusion after the research is that there is no happily ever after. The relationship has slowly died, as with the couple from the local magazine mentioned prior. They eventually divorced and went their separate ways. Even if you want it to work and pretend nothing has happened, it will surface again and again. Even if things seemed normal for the most part, you will remember all the pain and frustrations you've been through to successfully bring his libido up to par. This alone will make you sick to your stomach. Unless you’re a saint, there is very little will power for you to pretend the last 15 years didn't cut like a knife. 


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