IOL: Bedroom flaws you hate - he loves

IOL: Bedroom flaws you hate - he loves


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Bedroom flaws you hate - he loves

Some of us approach sex as though we were making a movie and worry more about script, performance and flattering camera angles than whether we're having a good time.

"Women feel incredible pressure in the bedroom, but they needn't," says counsellor Paula Hall. "Imperfection is less intimidating, often endearing and can ultimately help us bond with our partners." Need proof? Read on.

You hate glowing for it

He loves "My girlfriend hates getting hot and sweaty during sex, but it drives me absolutely wild. Especially when there are a few drops of sweat lingering just between her breasts. It shows that she's really putting some work into it, and it makes her look pretty hot, too." - Guy, 22

'Imperfection is often endearing'
You hate the booty shake
He loves "Most women think their butt is too big, but men want something to grab hold of. Seeing a woman giving her booty a shake during sex is a real turn on. What she thinks is wobbly we think is Beyoncé-sexy." - Gary, 28

You hate your scent
He loves "Nothing winds me up more than women who smother themselves in creams and perfumes before sex. We want to smell you, not slip our hands over a greasy, smelly body. Getting a whiff of your natural scent during sex is one of the biggest turn-ons."
Steven, 31

You hate being overheard
He loves "When she makes a racket, it's so sexy - and it's even better if someone hears. When it comes to sex, men are all about ego. Screaming at full volume lets us and everyone else know that we're great in bed, and - believe me - there's no better feeling." - Matt, 26

You hate bedroom blushing
He loves "Men don't care if you're not picture perfect. In fact, we prefer it if you're not. Why? First, we don't like being shown up and second, we hate the idea that you've done this stuff before!" - Will, 28

You hate getting it wrong
He loves "My girlfriend once tried out a new move on me in bed and it backfired, giving her a terrible cramp. But instead of taking a break, having a laugh about it and carrying on, she got embarrassed and stopped altogether. Men don't care if you get it wrong; we're just impressed that you tried." - Gavin, 25

Talk your way to great sex

Scientists have found that women often feel deflated after sex. The cause? Not size or libido, but communication. They found that deflation stems from a lack of satisfaction on an emotional level, which even the mother of all orgasms can't make up for. The solution? More energetic discussion between the sheets.



Published on the Web by IOL on 2007-07-23 09:58:45



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